domestic violence double standard

I was watching one of those court tv shows today. This lady was being sued by her ex for a loan and as a defense argued that the ex used to beat her. At first I was all for the lady but later the story came out that she would attack the ex first usually by slapping him in the face. The judge went off on the guy about having no right to put his hands on any woman but never said anything to the lady. This is my problem. Domestic violence should not be limited to man beating woman. It should encompass both. No person has any right to put his or her hands on any other person period. The judge should have yelled at the lady too for slapping the man. She had no right to do so just like the guy had no right too. Right now there still is a double standard here and until the issue of no one having a right to touch another is addressed can domestic violence finally be controlled and eventually eliminated.